Happy Sacred Sunday!
The hardest part of going to law school for me was learning that there is no right answer.
Until then, there had always been a right answer.
Growing up, whenever I took a test, it was a multiple choice (choose the right answer) or a fill in test (write in the right answer).
During undergrad I majored in accounting, which revolved around math. Math is specific — and you’re either right or wrong.
Being right or wrong gave me certainty, and that made me feel safe.
But law school was a different animal.
Welcome to the land of grey.
In this setting, I was being taught philosophies and laws — and they all had arguments for and against.
Every opinion has a dissenting opinion.
I’ll never forget sitting in a criminal law class talking about facts of a case in which a person committed a crime, but the courts overturned his guilty verdict on appeal. I’d think, oh, he was innocent; he didn’t commit the crime. And then I’d learn he had committed the crime, but there had been procedural mistakes in the investigation which made it impossible to convict him.
But wait, did he commit the crime or not?
Turns out, that wasn’t the point of the lesson. I was so confused!
At first, I hated this part of law school.
But I now realize it trained me for something bigger.
The skill of being able to argue both sides of an argument, of looking at things neutrally, and of understanding the grey makes me a great life coach.
It’s what has helped me take my clients out of an all-or-nothing mentality and help them stop self-sabotaging themselves because of it.
These skills taught me there’s always a flip side to things, that you don’t have to be married to everything you believe today, and that you can always change your mind, adjust, and grow.
Recently, I also learned one crucial piece to this puzzle — that you don’t have to use things against yourself — which is another way of saying it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
And that’s what I’m talking about in today’s podcast episode.
If you tuned in last week, we spoke about the power of changing your identity when you want to achieve a new goal, desire, or outcome.
This week, we’re exploring the flip side to that and making sure you don’t use the tools against yourself.
I’m sharing deep insights on how to balance working on new identities while understanding which parts of your old identity still serve a purpose.
This is one of my favorite episodes so far, and I can’t wait to hear what you think about it. Once you listen, (or blissten … I couldn’t help myself!), write back to this email and share your thoughts with me.
Until then, sending you so much love and light on this beautiful Sunday.
